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Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Throw Momma from the Plane

Emily Gillette was removed from a plane for breastfeeding her daughter on October 13th of this year. While awaiting takeoff, Gillete began to breastfeed her daughter (nursing during takeoffs and landings helps babies adjust to the altitude change). She was in a window seat with her husband between her and the aisle and no part of her breast was showing (not that it should matter). A flight attendant approached her, handing her a blanket and directing her to cover up. Gillette declined and informed the flight attendant that she was exercising her legal right to breastfeed. The flight attendant said, "You are offending me," and asked her to cover up again, and again Gillette declined. A few minutes later a ticket agent approached her and said her family was being removed from the flight.

What's even more reprehensible than the attitude and behavior of this flight attendant is the fact that the flight attendant is still employed by the airline and that representative for the airline said the following:

"A breast-feeding mother is perfectly acceptable on an aircraft, providing she is feeding the child in a discreet way," that doesn't bother others, Skellon said. "She was asked to use a blanket just to provide a little more discretion, she was given a blanket, and she refused to use it, and that's all I know." (Source)
So if the guy on the plane next to me chews too loudly, can I have him removed from the flight because he is bothering me? I'm sure Mr. Skellon would enjoy eating his lunch with a blanket over his head. And nevermind the fact that by the time a baby is a few months old, he will most likely pull the blanket off his head anyway. I'm surprised someone didn't suggest that this poor woman try to feed her baby in the cramped airplane bathroom, after all, isn't that what bathrooms are for, feeding babies?

And who defines discreet? Her breast was not showing. Her husband was seated between her and the aisle. Do they ask other mothers to cover their baby's head if they are bottlefeeding? What's the problem here, the breast (that isn't showing), the eating baby, or the fact that the baby and the breast are touching? For some reason I don't think you find a breastfeeding mother "acceptable" if you are going to dictate how or when she must breastfeed.

I am beyond disgusted. If you are making flight arrangements in the near future, you may want to avoid Freedom Airlines/Mesa Air/Delta, especially if you often feel the need to spontaneously expose your breast in order to feed your hungry child.

ETA: I just wanted to provide a link for the laws in different states that protect a mother's right to breastfeed. Thirty-seven states have laws that specifically uphold a mother's right to breastfeed in any public location and nineteen states exempt breastfeeding from public indecency laws. It's also important to remember that even if a particular state doesn't have a law on the books, that does not make it illegal to breastfeed in public. These laws merely protect and uphold a right that women already have, to feed their baby as they wish whenever and however they desire. No state prohibits women from breastfeeding in public. There is also no requirement in any of these state laws that breastfeeding be done "discreetly" or in any other particular manner.

Posted by Annie at 11:22 AM
Labels: breastfeeding

11 comments:

Ashley said...

I think I'd rather a quiet baby breastfeeding than a screaming baby as the plane is taking off. :-)

I think we should be allowed to remove from airplanes women with suggestive tops because their exposure offends us

1:07 PM
beth said...

I'm a friend of Ashley's and you've struck a chord with this breastfeeding mother. I appreciated your comment about what was really bothering people, the breast (that wasn't showing), the baby, or the fact that the two were touching. I'd never heard it put so clearly - and it's really true! It doesn't matter if no one can see anything, they know the two are touching and it bothers them. Therefore we must nurse in bathrooms? Don't think so!

3:42 PM
beth said...

Oh, and Ashley's comment about women in suggestive tops... where you actually CAN see the breast - VERY TRUE! As well as the people chewing loudly.

3:43 PM
Lyle said...

they wouldn't take us off the plane honey. i love you.

Lyle - i'll be home soon :)

3:54 PM
Anonymous said...

It's impossible to breastfeed without showing and I think the flight attendant was right in offering the blanket. The mother just had to accept the blanket, she didn't have to completely cover the baby's head. The fact that she got into a fight with the flight attendant over her rights on breastfeeding in public was ridiculous. It wasn't about breastfeeding, it was about modesty and the comfort of the other passengers on the plane.

3:05 PM
Annie said...

She didn't get into a "fight" with the flight attendant. She declined the offer of the blanket and then she got off the plane when they told her they were being removed from the flight. She even said that she felt helpless because these days you can't do anything to stick up for yourself on a plane or you'll just land yourself in trouble.

I'm sorry you have a problem with breastfeeding in public. It's unfortunate that our society tends to view the breast as entirely sexual and that people are uncomfortable with the fact that breasts were also made to feed and comfort babies.

On the plus side, I'm so glad that many states have taken steps to protect the rights of breastfeeding moms to feed their babies in public. You will notice that none of these laws mention the need for modesty or to be discrete or to use any sort of cover, and many states have also made a point to legally exclude breastfeeding from public indecency laws. Even if a woman's breast is showing in part, her right to breastfeed publicly is still protected.

Also, it is possible to breastfeed showing very little (showing far less than many women show in a v-neck shirt). I've had many people come over to take a peek at my baby's sleeping face only to realize that he's actually nursing, but they couldn't tell that he was eating until they were literally inches away from him.

Also, many women find that using a cover of some type actually draws far more attention to what is taking place, nevermind the fact that even an infant that is only a few weeks old is able to fling a blanket off his face. Add a few months and you have a baby that won't tolerate a covering of any type and an attempt to use one results in crying and screaming. Would you rather have a passenger on the plane forcing her baby's head under a blanket and listening to a baby cry and scream for the duration of the flight, or have a mother quietly nursing her child?

It's sad that our society views breastfeeding as something that should only be done behind closed doors. It is perfectly natural and the normal (not to mention healthiest) way to feed a baby. People in our country need to become more educated about breastfeeding and more accepting of nursing in public.

4:46 PM
Anonymous said...

As a nursing mother I was truly offended by this story. Complain to Delta about it...maybe if enough voices are heard they will apologize!!
Those blankets aren't washed between flights. I wouldn't use one to get free flights for life!!!

http://www.delta.com/emailus/servlet/EmailUs?cmd=go

7:17 AM
Lyle said...

" Anonymous said...

It's impossible to breastfeed without showing and I think the flight attendant was right in offering the blanket. The mother just had to accept the blanket, she didn't have to completely cover the baby's head. The fact that she got into a fight with the flight attendant over her rights on breastfeeding in public was ridiculous. It wasn't about breastfeeding, it was about modesty and the comfort of the other passengers on the plane. "

Whoever you are, you obviously don't know what you are talking about. The mother doesn't have to "just accept the blanket" if other people don't like seeing a woman breastfeeding then they need to LOOK AWAY. It is not, nor should it be a mother's responsiblity to ensure the comfort of anyone besides her baby. If you can't look at a mother breastfeeding without thinking sexual or erotic thoughts that is YOUR problem not the mothers. The ONLY reason it bothers people is b/c they think of the breast as purely sexual and seeing a baby's mouth on it is to much for them to handle. That's why women can walk around in bikinis or low cut shirts and expsose more breast than annie EVER has breastfeeding and its okay. No one cares if a woman shows her breasts in a sexual way b/c thats how our society thinks of them, but if a woman uses her breasts for anything non-sexual, such as breastfeeding her baby, which is a NATURAL function of the breast, people get all up in arms.

Keep your sexual attitude to yourself, thanks.

7:32 PM
Sarah said...

Not to mention that covering the baby's head completely interferes with the eye contact and bonding between mother and baby during that time!

From what I've heard, breastfeeding is one of the best ways to help babies during take-off and landing with the ear pressure, so I'd much rather a mom breastfeed than have the baby crying in pain when something so simple can help.

And seriously, it sounds like from where she was sitting, other passengers would have had to strain themselves to see anything.

11:45 PM
Throw in the blanket said...

I know I'm a little late, but this story really aggravated me too. The truth is, in this society women are only allowed to bare a boob if said boob is selling something. Otherwise - shame shame!

2:25 PM
Anonymous said...

I think women and men who allow a baby to SCREAM not cry, SCREAM... should be allowed and forced to shove his or her breast into the baby's mouth on a plane or in the condo next to me.

12:04 AM

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